The Power of Relationships: Blogs

Recently, we have experienced the power of relationships through Hounslow’s Mockingbird constellation.

When we attended social events, a coffee morning, or gatherings, we encountered a diverse group of people from different cultures and backgrounds. However, once we came together under one roof at our hub carer's place or any organised venue, we became a family, and that is truly amazing. This sense of unity is something I have noticed and enjoyed; there are no differences among us. We are bonded through foster care.

It feels like meeting with my own nephews and nieces; that's how personal it is to us. During our first gathering, it was like any other children's meeting, but within five minutes, they were all engaging and playing together as if they knew each other for long time, with lots of laughing! There were no differences, just strong bonds formed through foster care.

My daughter also enjoys these gatherings. She has become an integral part of the group because she loves being involved, and the other children adore her because she takes the time to teach them arts and crafts. This experience enriches both her life and ours, and that is something special. Everyone is smiling, and it feels like a big family.   We may experience similar emotions at a family wedding or similar occasions, but there is something unique about this feeling that is hard to articulate.

In terms of meaningful relationships within foster care, I also believe it is important for cared-for children to understand where they come from. Encouraging them to maintain a connection and relationship with their parents is crucial, and this should work both ways - benefiting the child, the parents, and the extended family, if possible.

We also need to consider the cultural aspects of the children in foster care. This is vital for the child,  and social workers are sensitive to the situation.  They provide us with background about the children’s cultural backgrounds. For instance, once we had a child from a Muslim family, and with the social worker's help we ensured we accommodated their needs accordingly. It's essential for us to be adaptable to all faiths.

The Mockingbird model has turned fostering into something even more meaningful, a shared journey where relationships, culture, and community come together to enrich everyone’s lives.